Because now i have nothing anymore. He wont find better, but I wont be around to find out! How will he react to me leaving the triangle?? Your ex has discerned that he or she went too far with the blocking and changed his or her mind about you. He lies and lies and covers with excuses and tries to deflect blame. Grrrr so bad!!! Through talking with friends and learning about the situation i am in, i believe i will and can brave the storm. lol Not as easy as i first thought. She posts all sorts of things on Facebook making her seem like she is wealthy , champagne pictures etc and how happy she is. and they know exactly what they are doing they know right from wrong, good from bad So my thinking on how I might respond can be listed as: 4) tell him to write 300 words describing his impressions of what happened, no direction, free to say whatever he will but not to send it to me rather to post it on the forum from which I have been ostracized as a public statement to the group then wait 2 years the length of time this had been present in my life after which if he has been a positive presence in my life stayed out my way and kept his mouth shut then ok a fresh start might be possible. Interesting. In some ways yes and it some ways no. From that point on things seemed to degrade (i.e. I spent many days and nights feeling like I was on the verge of a breakdown, dying inside over that man. Funny that, had no problems for 20 years until i called him out on his bullshit. Once you can accept this truth, that they will not change for all the love in the world then you are on your way. So please let me know when you get home and I will call you back. Narcs will ALWAYS hang themselves when you give them enough rope. Brooke, he does that to keep you reliant on him. He would either claim I was being over-sensitive, change the subject or end up insulting me. Ive come to accept he will neve change and that he will never ever come back to me ( not even to apologize for the hell hes making me go throught and affecting our son too). Just have an adult conversation and end things maturely. Like its been said before in cases like mine, wouldnt of stayed this long if it had been overtly abusive but there was a fair amount of good and before my discovery he could fool me with his emotions which seemed real. When you hit the send button, you never thought the photo would be used against you in a million years. Thank you. Once I tore off his mask, the abuse got worse. He waited another two months and begged me to call. The next day he had court date with another woman in the nieghborhood Poor widow Kim whom he had an relationship which he denies. I made the mistake of answering that first call two months ago, I wont make it again. Angry ones.Why he does those things. What woman would fall for that coming from a married man with two small children?? I f you think your ex is a narcissist, chances are they're probably not. Does anyone have any tips on getting over a narcissistic ex? And they then have the audacity to comment that you have caused irreparable damage during the relationship! I want to tell her the truth about him but wont, it would make me look crazy and she wont believe me. But i am so F.. volanerble I feel i am not over him yet. Best of luck to you. But the clincher is, he didnt know that I knew he ended their friendship..and during our last big argument he tried to say that they have a bond that most ppl wouldnt understand. I think in some weird way I keep contact to somehow get to the bottom of it. And not fair to myself. Like really? using a listing technique to tick off or list your supposed great qualities that they now see in you and miss It surprised me, thought she was married to the guy she lives with. As long as youre responding, thats all that matters. He met her and things scalated quickly to the point he is pretty much leaving me and our 3 year old. My husband thinks Im a nascacist and even tho I have not been diagnosed how are some ways I can tell if I am or not. Also, my husbands girlfriend was beaten very badly by her alcoholic ex and she has a special needs child. Deep down, they are hurting souls and not the cruel calculating individuals theyre perceived to be. I have just left another narcissistic man after putting myself through 4 1/2 yrs of love and then abuse only to continue on the same hamster wheel again and again. Now i have anxiety from this al. After years of abuse, they realized they were in a destructive relationship and harmed them, so they left. He thought he could talk his way out of my opinion of him (liked he used to talk his way out of everything)..but once he saw the spell was broken, he went away. I have PTSD from being in a relationship with a narc, which has been clinically diagnosed but reading these articles can sometimes confuse the hell out of me. Instead he squeezed qll heirlooms, I hey, and family outborvm blurs. I really hope she gets hers in the end. It also dawned to me how extremely immature she seemed for a 37 year old woman. Based on your description, that is what it sounds like to me. I am a male who has been in a no contact stage with what I emphatically believe to be a female borderline. Im sure the new girl has questioned him about this and of course they can spin it to look like you were the b-tch all along or that you are jealous of his new love but one day she will see the truth and my guess is she has already and will be adding 2 and 2. I am in the very beginning stages of leaving my narcissistic Abuser. Everyday its a struggle to get back to myself and he has caused so much emotional damage. He is now with that other person. Hate that dark weather. When would be a good time to come by to get the cable box and belongings? Like were best friends and no time is a good time in my book. You can check out my healing tools here on the site for starters. Its who they are and they dont change. I sent my best wishes and he took that as a reason to go one step further. So u see, ur hope amd faith is a waste. No means no and thats what she has violated a lot of timesacting like a 10 year oldseeking revenge and such etc.. Youll discover that you can fly, and theres a flock of us ready to encourage and support you. The last man shed ever kiss. Haha! The was hallucinating, so very confused. So, after theyve broken up with you and in a new relationship, the narcissist might feel that the supply theyre getting from their current partner is not as good as the supply, they got from you. Hi Kim ,Ive been with my narcissist for seventeen years two teenagers I have sole custody ,had order of protection ,domestic violence center never helped me I just lost all my marital assets in divorce settlement ,plus I have to pay him off a lot of money that I dont have he just got a huge settlement from his personal injury case ,can you explain to me why the court let the narcissist to get away with all the lies ,I almost lost my custody because I asked for more child support, Im so disappointed with the court system for the last four years Ive been calling all the possible organizations for help all I heard we cant help you you have to hire a lawyer and I did so my ex called my lawyer even when he had his own my question is how bad you have to be hurt by a narcissist to get help from the system, I work part time and I have to pay off a soon to be a millionaire. I waitthen text back you can get it tomorrow at 11 am . Everything Im reading is exactly what has been happening in my life. ITS realy like addiction. I tend to think it was an act of self-preservation. After all, if he is used to being a father, he is probably already adept at dealing with a female borderline/narcissist to some degree. Mine too he literally dumped me off at a new townhouse with our daughter and said goodbye! There are plenty of normal, healthy friendships you can seek out, and I would suggest you do that. He made all my needs his priority. She wants her life to be like the movies, so when she looks into my eyes, she is in love with her own reflection. Granted, we spoke on the phone all the time, but you see what I am getting at. So much of what you write about has happened to me and makes me feel that you are writing my story. So all we have to do now is learn to Love Ourselves as much as we Loved them without them. Once the child pulls away, be prepared for the father to respond in ways that cause the child extreme pain. I believe you are a very special and beautiful woman, and believe it or not, I really do care a lot about you. How difficult this would be for you. Yes, I truly thought she may have been my soul mate after all, although even then I was skeptical at how extremely clingy she was. In any case, I am going to pursue getting my money back through small claims. The day after Thanksgiving, the ex calls. I am a 30 year old widow.was in a relationship with a person for 2 monthshe was very smart, educated, welathy and single..but have had 2 previous relationships in which both the girls refused him according to himhe was one of my aunties friend.when my aunty spoke to him regarding me he said yes he would talk to me and said i want a perfect girl..when we started talking he was very nice.he praised me.said i am perfect for him.gave me so much of time and importance..though we were in different countries and havent seen each other yet he committed to me.he always said i wont find a guy like himhe have worked so hard to achieve all thishe have expenseive watchesi do shopping from london.my family is the best.we go on tours very often..very proud of his looks and bodyalways brag about how good he and his family isafter 3 weeks i started finding changes in him.he gets irritaed with me and yells at meon minor things like if i askare you tiredstarted avoiding mewas controlling the relationship in a way that we would talk when he have time.and whatever he wants to talk about..he would say he is the boss.doesnt show interest if I ask him to skpye or for any other thingwhen cannot call me makes excuses like i forgot my phone somewhere..one day i teased him that i saw someone who was really very nice..he abused me, yelled at me, compared this situation to his previous relationship and hung up.i apologized but still he called and said i accepeted you even though you have a past..and yelled at me..then he was just sending me one or two messages each day.then he stopped texting me and gave me a silent behavior for one month.i begged him even then he didnt respondedthen i texted him and broke up with him.he said he would call me after two days and give me a replyI said i dont want to talk to you anymore.he replied he gave me love and respect and I ruined everything..then called my aunty and said bad things about meI still love him and wish he would come backif he comes back.should I accepthim or not? He became sexually abusive. This gives them a great advantage over us. Theyre the type the narcissist can control. Many Narcissists dont treat their exes well, especially when they refuse to come back. Since you are connected to him if ways you get out of (children) I think you have to educate yourself and learn to let the things he does roll off ur back. I think this time finally he gets it. He tells me you have tons of friends to confide in and I only have you. It feels so good finally found a site where i have contact with people that understand me. After ten days he started answer and said that i have the right of the trueth and would tell me the day after. They often cannot function in even simple, daily tasks. How do you go no contact if the narcissist is your childs father? Go inward. I know what it is. When you go into No Contact mode, you are shifting the power to yourself, and the narcissist loses their sanity because theyve lost not only their God-like power, but also their emotional punching bag. My ex accepted this and was viewed as a saint by my family. I found it odd because 1) We haven't talked 2) He doesn't follow me on Insta, so he deliberately has to go to my profile just to see the Story. Leave without any goodbye or hint whatsoever, to never speak to them ever again. How can a narc go from highly sexual to needing more if a frienship in a relationship?? Karen!!! I love being on my own and alone but when I think of my ex narc the pain of his disc a rd wont go away and it seems like hes the only thing that can remind me of what love felt like. Dont buy it. Lol I can talk occasionally with him now because I accept he is a Narc. He would order dinner and have it waiting when I got there. 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